On Mar 21, 10:33 am, "PoPs" wrote:
> wrote in message
>
> news:1174259388.777095.48590@n59g2000hsh.googlegroups.com...
> : This is my first time ever opening up to something like this and I
> : have a problem with my husband.
> : this has been going on for years - we've had big agruments about
> this
> : but he still sneeks around
> : and goes on the internet to see porn and now he is going on a web
> site
> : saying he is single and looking for someone in his location. I found
> : out about this by looking at his "history" on his website
> : and confronted it to him and he told me that he didn't do that and
> : when he opens up his e-mail junk like that opens up. but the funny
> : thing is, the replys he is getting is calling him by a cartoon
> figure
> : that we all know he likes and even put on his computer screen saver.
> I
> : am very unhappy with him but feel I cannot talk to him about it
> : because he is not being honest with me. I feel very alone and hurt.
> : All the years of this going on has made me numb (before I would cry,
> : this time nothing)
> : Not only do I not understand him but I cannot understand myself.
> :
> : Me. a wife.
>
> Single and looking for someone in his location? Are you dealing with
> the tip of the iceberg when you're arguing over his internet surfing
> behaviors? Doesn't just happen over night, it is a process, a trigger
> initiated his behavior. Have to get to the bottom of that behavior
> and what motivates him to do so.
You know the old saying " You can lead a horse to water, but you can't
make him
drink it" His life with porn is his own and he isn't willing to
completely open that up
with me
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