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>"Nina" wrote in message
>news:lqq5031k6srpm4e9hulavh7bvbh34924ji@4ax.com...
>> On Thu, 22 Mar 2007 13:08:49 -0400, "zorra"
>> wrote:
>>>What I described is extreme, but people thinking that their spouses
>>>should not have opposite sex friendships is pretty common. And if
>>>your spouse is like that, I can see getting into the habit of not
>>>mentioning even perfectly innocent things in order not to cause
>>>trouble.
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>> I guess that I find it so hard to imagine, even though I know that
>> some people are like this, that I see it as so improbable. Probably
>> less unlikely than I think, though.
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>Well, I've known several people like this, both in newsgroups and in
>real life. One friend, for example, advised me *not* to go to a male
>counselor because it was too "dangerous." And once when the other
>bridesmaids and I wanted to take the groom to lunch to ask him some
>questions to be used in a bridal shower game, the bride nixed the
>idea, because it was "inappropriate" for the groom to go out with
>other women without her -- this despite the fact that it was with
>*several* women, in a public place, for the express (and known)
>purpose of planning her shower. There are other examples, but in
>general I've been surprised at how many people seem to think that sex
>is like a predator out there ready to attack anyone not eternally
>vigilant.

It's like whoever it is here who always says that he would never, ever have lunch with a woman alone. I find it just strange (although it's a personal choice). My life has not exactly been filled with sex looming behind every door (although I did once have a very strange encounter with a sort-of-friend's husband that could be exactly described as looming behind a door. Ugh.). It's almost Victorian, and it smacks of the idea that people have zero self control and should be protected from each other at all costs.