On Mar 22, 7:30 pm, "WhansaMi" wrote:
> "Sarah Lister" wrote in message
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> news:1174592650.088093.44430@e1g2000hsg.googlegroups.com...
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> > On Mar 22, 3:13 pm, "zorra" wrote:
> >> "La Mer" wrote in message
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> >> > I"m not suggesting
> >> > to persecute the person who had the "affair", but with all due
> >> > respect, for the sake of even having a discussion, let's call it
> >> > what
> >> > it is, no?
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> >> I'd love to. How about, "Developed an emotional connection"?
> >> Perfectly descriptive without bringing in an unnecessarily
> >> inflammatory, and IMO inaccurate term like "affair."
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> > Personally, I'd vote for "crossed a line". I don't think that
> > developing an emotional connection is inherently bad, so I wouldn't
> > want to stigmatize that phrase - "developed an inappropriate emotional
> > connection" would be better but kind of long. I think the thing the
> > "emotional affair" phrase is trying to get across is that sex is not
> > the only line and that if you already have a secret emotional
> > relationship with someone you aren't about to cross a line (which is
> > the way some new posters see it), you already have crossed one. On
> > the other hand, many others clearly also believe that that second
> > level of transgression (actually having sex) is distinct from and
> > worse than the first so equating them by calling both situations
> > 'affairs' confuses things. Either way, if you're doing the
> > inappropriate-connection thing, you've entered the unfaithfulness zone
> > even if you're not at the very worst spot in that zone. So, crossed a
> > line.
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> > Watching you guys discuss all of this has helped me clarify exactly
> > where the line is in my own opinion. I don't think there's anything
> > overwhelmingly wrong with feeling a connection or having a crush, but
> > if both people feel an attraction and they've acknowleged it to each
> > other but not to their spouses and are continuing to spend time
> > together, the line has been crossed, no matter how you want to
> > describe it.
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> > Sarah
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> Hey. Isn't this what I said yesterday?
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Oh, sorry, maybe I even got the idea from you and didn't register it
wasn't mine. I bow to your wisdom. :-)
Sarah
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