"zorra" wrote in message
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> "Nina" wrote in message
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>> On Thu, 22 Mar 2007 13:08:49 -0400, "zorra"
>> wrote:
>>>What I described is extreme, but people thinking that their spouses
>>>should not have opposite sex friendships is pretty common. And if
>>>your spouse is like that, I can see getting into the habit of not
>>>mentioning even perfectly innocent things in order not to cause
>>>trouble.
>>
>> I guess that I find it so hard to imagine, even though I know that
>> some people are like this, that I see it as so improbable. Probably
>> less unlikely than I think, though.
>
> Well, I've known several people like this, both in newsgroups and in real
> life. One friend, for example, advised me *not* to go to a male counselor
> because it was too "dangerous." And once when the other bridesmaids and I
> wanted to take the groom to lunch to ask him some questions to be used in
> a bridal shower game, the bride nixed the idea, because it was
> "inappropriate" for the groom to go out with other women without her --
> this despite the fact that it was with *several* women, in a public place,
> for the express (and known) purpose of planning her shower. There are
> other examples, but in general I've been surprised at how many people seem
> to think that sex is like a predator out there ready to attack anyone not
> eternally vigilant.
>
> Zorra
>
This does not make a lot of sense to me. But really, the only thing that
matters is that things make the same sense to the couple. DH And I have the
same attitudes toward this stuff. If we had different attitudes, we'd be in
trouble.
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